Finding Friends

Wouldn't it be wonderful, if it was easy for every child to make friends? Some children are so good at finding friends, they don't understand how it feels to want a friend. One Brown Bunny by Marion Dane Bauer and illustrated by Ivan Bates is a good way to start a conversation and build an awareness about how it feels to want a friend and how to approach others with whom you would like to be friends. This short counting book is about one bunny going from place to place asking others to come and play. Before reading ask the children to start thinking about how it feels to want something and not be able to have it. Build some empathy for the bunny and then at the end you can work to build empathy for those who ask to play, but are not included. Use the story to also help teach words people use when they want to play with others. Some children just don't know what words to say. With some creative use of props you could have your class act out the story, which ends with everyone coming to be bunny's friend. Take time to teach the skills children need to make friends. Quietly recognize children when they include others in play.
For more information on the topic, read Vivian Paley's book, "You Can't Say, You Can't Play." It was written a number of years ago, but is still full of valuable insights.